Have you ever felt that you really tried hard at something but didn't get the results you wanted? You had high hopes - but they fell flat?
Often times we feel that we've really put a lot of effort into something and it simply didn't work.
But the truth is, we didn't give it our all. We still allow that perceived "failure" to impact our self-image and belief in our capabilities.
I remember studying for the LSAT with a good friend. We both ended up putting off the test, but I took it first. I didn't quite get the result I wanted, but I knew I'd put in 100% effort, so I was pleased with my results.
The next time around my friend took the exam. When he got his results he called me. "I did horribly," he said. I asked him his score, and it wasn't too bad. But it was much lower than he had hoped for. So I asked him, "Did you really put in the time?" He replied emphatically, "Yes!" So I said "So, did you do every single one of the homework problems and review them? Did you do every additional question we were provided? Did you take all of the practice tests and time them, as directed?" His answer was NO to all three.
What did this mean? He didn't really give it his all because he didn't do all that was required of him. But this was good news! Because the truth is that his results were not a failure, they were simply a result of the effort he put in. The only mistake that was made was him thinking that his score was a true reflection of his ability. He did not fail, he simply saw realistic results.
Don't confuse your results for failure.
I would like you to look back over your so-called "failures" in life and ask yourself: "Did I fail? Or did I just get the results I earned?"
Because chances are you didn't really give your all. Chances are you didn't do all your homework. You didn't put in the extra time. You didn't do all of the practice that was necessary. And you let your 60% effort, and 60% result, allow you to feel like a 100% failure.
If you really want something in life, you must give it your all. This means doing everything that’s recommended and even more in pursuit of your dream. If you left anything undone, any opportunity to learn unseized, then you didn't give it your all.
If you did give it your all, and do everything possible you can to succeed, you couldn't truly fail even if you tried.
Don't confuse your results with failure. Give it your all and watch your dreams come true.